Today my therapist asked me how's your relationship with your mom now....and my one word answer:
Fake.
When you realize your mother has NPD, you either ignore them, or humor them. Humoring someone is not a real relationship. I love her, yes. Like how a real human loves another human. But her love is 100% conditional. For real. Its not like she's pretending her love is conditional, it really is. She cannot love like a real human can love another human. And we have to accept that as a shortcoming of hers if we really want to be able to heal. (Hers, meaning your mother and mine).
So while we have a "fake" relationship, its still a type of one. And while its not perfect, its something.
And I guess that counts for something.
