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Conversations with Mother: #3

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Here is an exact post from a group I was in called "Therapy for Peace of Mind" which consisted of me and couple other people where we'd go to let off steam to bitch about stuff.  I was so, so, SO very angry about this when it happened, so pardon all the swear words:

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*sigh* So tomorrow I am supposed to go to (a city 2 hours away from us) to visit family. BUT I have 4 dogs and no sitter. I asked my mom today and this is what she did:

Her: Oh all FOUR of them? I dunno. That's a lot of work. I don't know if I can. Hmmmm yeah. Think about the gas. It will probably take you one tank to get there and one tank back, that's a lot of gas!  
(3 medium dogs and a chihuahua, mind you ONE OF THE BIGGER DOGS IS HERS!)

Me: It takes 2 tanks of gas to get to GEORGIA, MOM. Not Madison.
 (it takes 2 hours to get there)

Her: Well, yeah, but still. And if you come back late, it will be too late for me to handle the dogs.

(this is the SAME FUCKING EXCUSE she would use when we had our anxiety group meetings and I'd ask her to watch the kids when they were younger--"That's too late for me"--meaning EIGHT PM!!)

Me: We'll leave at 6 and be home by 8 or so.

Her: Well, yeah, maybe we can leave all the dogs there and I can come up there. I can take Homer though, he's easy.

 (I WILL NOT LET THIS CRAZY BITCH IN MY HOUSE ALONE!!)

Me: Yeah, maybe.

(NOT!)

Her: And think about it, why go all the way there?? Why not them come up here?

Me: There's nothing to do here, mom.  And they're having a get together, why would they come here?

Her: And you think there's more to do in Madison??!!!

(IS she fucking kidding me???? It's a college town. What in the holy fuck is wrong with her?)

Me: And having ALL those people in my house? Why would I want that? With four dogs? And I haven't prepared my house at all??

Her: Well, it IS Nate's only day off. You have to think about that. I mean, do you really want to spend all of his day off doing THAT?

Me: *sigh* Yes. Because it's FUN.

(I yelled the fun part. I was PISSED. How dare she think that my birthfamily isn't worth my husband's day off?? She's not even jealous about me seeing them, she's just being a bitch. This is how she acts over everything we want to do.)

Her: Oh good. I was just checking to make sure you'd be okay with that.

(WHY THE FUCK DOES SHE NEED TO CHECK ANYTHING?? ALL I ASKED HER TO DO WAS WATCH MY FUCKING DOGS!! NOT ASK HER GODDAMNED OPINION ABOUT MY FUCKING TRIP!)

Me: Okay then, I gotta go. Bye.

She said bye, but I hung up before she finished.

What. The. Holy. Fuck. She always does this, but I NEVER EVER EVER ask her to do anything for me EVER so she caught me off guard. For NEVER having to do shit for me, she sure is acting like I am putting her out!  AND she has my dogs at her house regularly, so why all of a sudden now is it an issue???  They don't even do anything, they are old and lazy!!

*sigh* What the fuck ever. So then she called me back immediately (I was on the phone with Nate) FIVE TIMES to apologize (cause this is what she does----she'll try really hard to pisssssss me off and then call me back and say "Oh I never meant I wouldn't do it for you, you know that!" trying to make me feel like I was overreacting. She must need some narcissistic supply and thought I was a good target. Fuck her. I got the kids up and we left the house immediately so she couldn't walk up to my house and talk to me. Fuck her, I am not talking to her till Monday. We aren't going tomorrow but I am going to tell her we did. Stupid idiot.

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And we did end up going and left the dogs home alone.  They were perfectly fine, had access to food and water.  AND there were NO accidents in the house!  LOL When my mom asked a week later when we're actually going to go, I said "We already did."  "Oh when?"  "That day we were going to go.  I just left the dogs at home".  "You know I would had watched them!"  "You said no.  So, I took that as no.  So next time, say yes when you mean yes." 


This was July 11, 2015 I posted it, so it was around that time we went down there.  Feels strange it was a whole year ago.  Anyways, she's the same person now, yeah.  Not much has changed LOL





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