So last night I dreamed my mother was babysitting this little girl.  She was ignoring her and not doing anything with her, so the little girl didn't like her much and didn't mind her when she was told what to do by my mother.  So I jumped in and played with her and we ran around together having fun.  I also fed her (since my mother wasn't giving her any food) and had her change her clothes when she got them dirty from playing outside.  She listened to me and did as I said the entire time...because I was actually engaging with her.  My mother was just ignoring her as though she were me (hmmmm....as I write this, I am wondering if that's who she was in my dream?  A little "me"?).  So I decided when the mother came back, I'd ask to get paid instead of my mother since I was the one taking care of her.

My mother was livid!   She was swearing and angry and tried to get me back down.  But instead, I stood up to her with NO anxiety (unlike real life).  I told her that she was ignoring the child and I was the one taking care of her and she needed to back off (and other stuff I can't remember now--don't you hate that?  When dreams just fade away even though minutes ago you remembered them clearly?  Ugggh!).  When the mother came, she sided with my mother!  She was even angry I was watching her!  LOL  So I stood up to her, too.  And unlike my mother, she eventually listened to me (and her daughter) that I should be the one taking care of her, not my mother.

Then I had a second dream where I wanted to go to the movies and my mother was going to pay for me and my youngest son to go (in my dream my oldest had a job and my hubby was also working).  But then my mother did something nasty.....but I kept my mouth shut because I wanted to go to the movies LMAO

Now THAT one was more like real life LOL I was always constantly weighing what my mother offered us against her behavior.  Like "I will pay for your groceries if you just let me treat you like shit for the rest of the month".  I didn't want my family to starve, so I had to let her treat us like shit.  Which also wasn't fair to my family.

I will tell you, we are so much better off being no contact and not playing those games anymore.  Sooooo much better off.....