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The Chair (yet so much more than just a chair)

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Me:
(brings in mother's old chair, as her new chair is giving her back problems)

Her: Should I put this one back outside?  Also, what will I do with the outside chair?

Me: I will bring it back in the garage. 

Her: No, I will get it.

Me: No, I will get it when I bring this one out.  (I start pushing her chair out the door)

Her: (chases after me)  Let me get the door!

Me: No, I got it.

Her:  No, just let me around you and I'll get the door.

Me: Your chair weighs like 6 ounces, mom, I don't need help with the door.

Her: Just let me get it!

Me: (stops in the middle of the room)  Listen, the correct way to help someone is to ask "Do you want me to do this for you?"  And if the person says no, you listen and back off.  

Her: (laughs)

Me: But your way of helping is "LET ME DO IT FOR YOU!  LET ME DO IT FOR YOU!!"  Which isn't helping at all, it's annoying. (said in a light-hearted way)

Her: (laughs again)

Me: Next time, just ask if someone needs help and if they say yes, help them.  If they say no, leave it alone.  

Her:  Okay. 


We'll see if she does.  I doubt she'll remember this conversation, but it's been a LONG time coming and it felt good to finally say it.  Especially it felt good to say it and not be mean or angry when I said it.  




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