He was around my age.  I was transferred to his store for the day, because they were down a person.  That's what happens when you work part-time at Aldi.  They "float" you up to 30 miles away, and work you up to 38 hours so they don't have to give you insurance and still say you're part-time.  So that day, I was transferred to Tony's store.

Now I don't remember his real name, otherwise I would use it, but I only met this guy once.  But wow, he was so nice to me.  He welcomed me to his store and allowed me smoking breaks apart from my normal breaks (ew, I know, but I haven't smoked in 23 years).  He did everything he could to make me comfy and happy and gave me special privileges.  And?  He was cute.  That was a nice side effect, to have a cute guy be super nice to me.  At that age, I was used to having a husband who was mean to me, so it made me feel like I was a real human having someone be nice to me for once.  Today?  I would immediately suspect him of being a narcissist and I wouldn't have been so nice back to him.  I would have taking his constant asking me how I was doing and been a little standoffish with him.  Let him say "I was just trying to be nice."  And I would say "Yeah, I appreciate that, but if I need anything, I will ask you myself.  You don't need to check on me."  But back then, I wasn't so adept at fishing out narcissistic behavior (I didn't even know what that meant).  

Nice guy narcissists are filled with smiles and good will and cheer and laughter.  They are always anticipating your every need and are usually up your ass with their niceness.  They have that NGN smile, you know the one, it's too big, all teeth, and whenever they look at you it's plastered across their face, even if seconds before they were frowning.  It's like they don't know how to be a real human, so they mimic one and think by smiling all the time it will fool you into thinking they're nice.  But we need to remember: most mammals show their aggression by baring their teeth at you.  Humans are the only ones who think "teeth = friendly".  And narcissists aren't like real humans, so them showing their teeth is not friendly.  Remember that.  People who smile WAY too much?  Are not normal.  

The thing is, if I met Tony today, he wouldn't be fawning all over me the way he was back then.  Back then, I was in my early 20's, hot to trot, and cute as a button.  Today? I am middle aged, with a shaved head and look like I could beat you up.  Not that I would, but people think that of me now....I don't know why?  But people are scared of me....maybe it's because I don't smile as much amore? haha  I don't know.  But Tony thought I was a hot little number, and thought he could take advantage of his job as a boss (he wasn't much older than me) to get me to sleep with him.  Too bad, so sad, Tony.  Because the minute he found out my HUSBAND was waiting for me outside with my toddler son?  That smile turned into a scowl and he hated me.  And he forced me to do extra work to punish me for not being sexually available to him.  

We think today that the men of this world are fucked (and rightly so) but the world thinks it's how they were raised....hahahaha  BUT WE, the people on this page, know better, because we fully understand what's going on here.  NPD is the base operating system for humanity and most humans have it.  So....that's why the men of this world are fucked.  So the "nice guy" bullshit is 100% narcissism-based.  It's not how they were raised.  It's not something we can fix.  This is the way of the world.  And we just have to accept it, learn to recognize it, and know how to build boundaries against it.  That's all we can do.  

Start by recognizing the NGN's or other "nice guys" in your life.  And don't fall for their acts.  Protect yourself and your peace.  That's all you can do.